Kul finds some beautiful excerpts from Osho’s discourses.
You have fallen in love over many years. Then it did not work. You tried to get out of it as if you were climbing out of a slippery ditch. It never worked. It is so childish. As a teenager, you fell in love. What happened? Did you get your love for ever after? Most likely, you two drifted away. Again and again. You always had a heart break, a pain that refused to go away despite the passage of time.
Enough of that! Now try as Osho says, rise in love. Rising in love is beautiful, and getting out of it is very easy, because that will be falling down. Falling down is easy, keep it for the next step; for the first step, always use rising.
Rising in love means a learning, a changing, a maturity. Rising in love ultimately helps you to become grown-up. And two grown-up persons don’t quarrel; they try to understand, they try to solve any problem. Anybody who rises in love never falls from it, because rising is your effort, and the love that is grown through your effort is within your hands. But falling in love is not your effort.”
Osho, From Death to Deathlessness, Ch 36, Q 1
In fact, a mature person does not fall in love, he rises in love. The word ‘fall’ is not right. Only immature people fall; they stumble and fall down in love. Somehow they were managing and standing. They cannot manage and they cannot stand – they find a woman and they are gone, they find a man and they are gone. They were always ready to fall on the ground and to creep. They don’t have the backbone, the spine; they don’t have that integrity to stand alone.”
Osho, The Tantra Vision, Vol 2, Ch 2, Q 1
Love means giving, giving not just gifts and affection but giving total freedom to the other. Freedom to be with you or leave you. After all, he/she has his/her own being, own territory which you should not encroach upon. No matter how close you are, how deep you are in love, every person has a special virgin space which is very, very private. This space is not to be taken over or conquered by your love. Rising in love you become aware of this sacred space as you give full freedom. Then rising in love becomes spiritual.