Amrit Sadhana writes on a different view of parenting in the Deccan Chronicle on October 18, 2016.
The very question sounds like sacrilege, when parenting surely is the most exalted and glorified job of men and women — absolutely choiceless! Women particularly are so heavily conditioned about becoming mothers that they seldom look at the real feelings they harbour about this extremely important yet difficult task. This issue is so important that it needs to be looked into with fresh eyes. Osho has spoken at length on it, and if his views are studied and imbibed by parents, it will not only help the child-parent relationship, but improve the quality of human life as well.
Ponder these invaluable Osho tips. “First: the idea that the children belong to you is wrong. They come through you; you have been a passage, but they don’t belong to you. Once you start thinking that they are your possessions, you have reduced them into things, because only things can be possessed, not human beings. It is the ugliest act to do. And those poor children are so helpless, so dependent on you, they cannot rebel.”
Another important and startling fact is that just by giving birth to a child, a woman doesn’t become a mother. There is a difference between a biological mother and a psychological mother. A human child needs much more than just a biological mother. To be a mother is a great art, one that needs understanding and maturity. If a mother is happy within herself, if she is meditative and centered, only then can she allow the child to blossom as an individual. The child-parent relationship sours because parents have a tendency to burden their children with expectations: their unfulfilled desires and their ambitions, making the children feel guilty about their parents’ sacrifice, and making them feel that something is expected in return. This is destructive. But by helping the child to grow into a beautiful human being, you are also helping yourselves; you are growing as parents too.
If parents and children meditate together a loving energy will flow between them. There will be an inner harmony, a silent communion between them, and the generation gap will dissolve, as at the deeper level, as we know, everyone is equal.
Quote by Osho from
Socrates Poisoned Again After 25 Centuries, Ch 2
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