Heart Telephone

“A wonderfully cleansing exercise, a mainstay in Waduda’s Heart groups,” according to Madhuri

This was a mainstay of Waduda’s Heart groups, and was done after we’d already been doing other exercises for a while and were well in our hearts.

And, by the way, if you have any Aura Soma pomanders: Any Heart exercise is much helped by using Pink beforehand.

The Theory

The subconscious does not know the difference between fantasy and reality, so we can profitably work on our inner worlds through imagination, or letting one person be a proxy for another. ‘The veil is thin’, as I often say, and it seems to be a general human trait to be able to step into the shoes, or the being, of another person, even someone far away; and even without knowing anything about them. In this exercise, though, you don’t have to go quite that far: you just become empty, and allow the partner to project upon you someone far away – someone with whom they have unfinished business.

It’s a wonderfully cleansing exercise, and there are always tears…

The Method

Find a partner. Decide who is A and who is B.

A is going to be the Telephone. The facilitator guides the Telephones into becoming empty in their hearts… just a long slow ingoing and relaxing and emptying out.

B now thinks of a person in their lives to whom they would like to say something, from the heart. It does not matter if that person is alive or dead, near or far. B goes inside to her own heart (guided by the facilitator) and feels a contact with that person.

B now asks A, “May I project upon you, {name of person}, (age of person, or, if they are deceased, the age when they died), and (place where they are, if known)?” For example, “May I project upon you my old English teacher, Mr Napier, whom I last saw in 1972, in Riverside, when he was about 30, and whose whereabouts are now completely unknown, and nor could I find him on Facebook?”

If A agrees, she just remains empty and open whilst B takes 10 minutes to speak from her heart to Mr Napier (or whoever). It’s an opportunity to say whatsoever has been left unsaid…

If A senses that B is getting away from her heart, and into her head or elsewhere, she can just touch her own heart briefly to remind; but generally people really go well into their hearts and stay there. (Don’t physically touch your partner during this phase of the exercise, though.)

So this will need a Ding! to begin the 10-minute period and a Ding! to end it.

Now, if A feels to, she can respond – as if she is still the Telephone and can speak from the perspective of the Distant Person; or as a mixture of that person and her own perceptions. Basically, just whatever her response is, she can share. This can be timed to 5 minutes, or 7; with a Ding! at beginning and end.

Now switch over. It’s B’s turn to be the Heart Telephone, so the facilitator guides her into letting her heart fall open and become empty. Then A asks, “Is it okay if I project on you So-and-So, … years old, living in … ?”

And, Ding! A has 10 minutes to speak to that absent soul and complete anything left unsaid.

Then, if B feels to, she has 5 minutes to respond. (People often surprise themselves in this part, with what sensitive knowing and understanding comes out of them!)

Ding! Now, thank your partner, disengage from the roles, come back to yourself, and it’s time to share. Take the next 10 minutes – with Dings fore and aft – to share back and forth how this was for you – to be the Telephone, and to speak to the Distant Person. (This can also be done as a specifically-timed 5-minute sharing from just one person while the other listens, and then it’s the other’s turn.)

It’s great to end with a thank you, and a hug!